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Emigrating or moving to a new place can be an incredible adventure, but it also comes with a challenge many of us don’t talk about enough—staying true to who we are while building new friendships.
I’ve found myself in situations where well-meaning new friends invite me to do things that just aren’t me. Camping trips, long bike rides, outdoor overnight adventures in huts! … I love that they’re passionate about it, but I also know that’s not my idea of fun. And for a moment, I’ll question myself: Should I just go? Am I being difficult? Will they think I’m boring?
Do you ever feel that?
Moving to a new place doesn’t mean you have to become someone new. The right friendships will form around you, not an expectation of you.
Sometimes, it can even feel like we don’t belong—but is that the reality, or is it our own fear? The truth is, feeling different doesn’t mean we aren’t welcome. It just means we’re learning to stand confidently in ourselves, even when people with different interests surround us.
But here’s the thing—friendship isn’t about saying yes to everything just to fit in. It’s about feeling accepted for who you are. The people who are meant to be in your life won’t need you to change to be part of theirs.
How to Stay True to Yourself (Without Feeling Guilty)
Own Your Preferences with Confidence It’s okay to say, “That’s not really my thing, but I’d love to hang out another way.” You don’t need to explain or justify why something isn’t for you.
Find Your Own Ways to Connect If you’re not into biking up mountains at sunrise, maybe you’d love a coffee catch-up, a beach walk, or a relaxed dinner. Suggest alternatives that feel good for you.
Let Go of the Fear of Disappointing People. Good friends won’t pressure you or make you feel bad for being yourself. If someone does, they might not be your people.
Remember: You Bring Value Just as You Are. You don’t need to be outdoorsy, sporty, or adventurous to be a great friend. Your kindness, humour, wisdom, or ability to deeply listen are what truly matter.
Moving to a new place doesn’t mean you have to become someone new. The right friendships will form around you, not an expectation of you.
So if you’d rather sip coffee and have a deep chat than sleep in a tent—own it. The people who get you will love you for exactly that. 💛
Let me know if you feel any of this, maybe we can connect!
Love Love C xx
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