Helping or Hurting? The Downside of Always Rescuing

Are you the one everyone turns to for help?

Do you find yourself constantly putting others' needs before your own?

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. I used to be in the same boat. However, I've managed to lessen this pattern by delving into my subconscious beliefs, values, and unmet needs. This journey of self-discovery has made me more self-aware and helped me find a healthier balance in my relationships.

Take a look and see if you can relate to the following. It might help you let go of the tendency to rescue others too often.

Empathy and Compassion: 

You are remarkable in being empathetic and compassionate towards others. It's almost as if you can feel their pain and emotions, which often leads to an intense desire to help them, even if it means going out of your way. This trait is likely a fundamental aspect of your personality, and it gets reinforced every time you assist someone in need, including animals. You often feel tense, full, overwhelmed, tired and achy.

Personal Fulfillment: 

Assisting and supporting others can be a highly gratifying experience for many people. You may have a strong inclination toward personal satisfaction by engaging in acts of kindness and aiding others, even if it means compromising your well-being, financial stability, and contentment. By the end of the day, you often feel fatigued and drained, barely affording a moment to catch your breath. Due to exhaustion, you may experience physical discomfort, difficulty sleeping, or insomnia.

Sense of Responsibility:

You have a strong sense of responsibility towards others, whether in your relationships, work, or community. This feeling of duty could weigh you down and drain every bit of energy, giving you tight shoulders, neck pain, and gut issues. You put yourself last.

Unresolved Feelings:

Often, those who are always there to rescue others are the ones who struggle the most with their own unresolved emotions, past traumas, and future fears. It's easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of activities, using them as a distraction from our own personal growth. But this avoidance can lead to a life that feels incomplete, a constant struggle to accept ourselves as we are, and high levels of stress that make it hard to find peace. 

As a result, they may end up living a life full of distractions, feeling like something is missing, and struggling to accept themselves as they are. This can lead to high-stress levels, making it difficult for them to find stillness, causing injuries, and leaving them with little sense of peace.

We crave love: 

Sometimes, we feel like we need to be noticed by others, to fit in somewhere, to have someone to rely on, or to make a difference in the world. We might help others because we crave attention, we want someone to be there for us when we need them, or we feel like we're not important enough. All these feelings might make us feel anxious, sad, or lonely, and even physically not well - we might have issues with our gut, bones, muscles, and posture. We might also feel guilty and ashamed.

You may possess the qualities of a rescuer, always putting others first. However, it's important to take a step back and ask yourself if this behaviour benefits your health and well-being. 

Take note of your rescuing tendencies and evaluate if they are truly good for you and your body.

Your body keeps the score of everything you do.

Take care of it.

Having an overwhelming need to help others is not cool, babe. It's important to care for ourselves and avoid giving too much, even if we've been taught otherwise.

Always remember that being a rescuer or people-pleaser comes from an unfulfilled need within yourself. Take the time to care for yourself, seek help for your lovely self, and free yourself from that burden. This will enable you to perform deep and meaningful acts of service and share quality time with your loved ones, creating an even stronger bond.

Sometimes, we help others so much that we forget to care for ourselves. It's like we become addicted to rescuing people, and they also become used to us solving their problems instead of figuring them out on their own. 

This can be a problem because we might get too tired and annoyed that our needs are always ignored. That's why it's important to balance helping others with taking care of ourselves.

We can do this by setting boundaries, looking after ourselves, and encouraging others to solve their problems independently. 

If you're interested in working with me, I'm here for you. Shoot me an email, and we'll start you on a new path of taking care of yourself, finding true freedom, and building real connections with others based on love and trust.

Working with me could be your ticket to break the tiring cycle of always rescuing others. I can help you create healthy boundaries, prioritise self-care, and love taking control of your own well-being. Now, that's got to be better for your health, wealth, and happiness.

You aren't here to exhaust yourself for the sake of others.

Love, love C xx

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